Thriving when life is uncertain – 3 essential practices
We are living in a time of chronic uncertainty. For working parents, there is the uncertainty of how this crisis will affect our businesses or organisations. Not knowing when schooling will return to normal or what mood each of my children will be in today. The juggling of needs between work commitments and the family. The emotional rollercoaster of sharing life so intensely. Worry about relatives or friends. Figuring out what the latest guidance is on what we can and cannot do. It goes on.
There are some practices we can develop for thriving when life is uncertain. In this article I share some of my reflections and strategies for adjusting.
How can we live well when life is uncertain? How can we thrive?
I want to share the things that have helped me in the hope they might help you too.
1. Find your ‘anchor’ amidst the storm
For me my anchor is my faith nurtured by daily practices of meditation and tai chi. Also, two key questions that I keep coming back to:
What is important now?
What is mine to do?
I do meditation and tai chi at the same time each day and these questions are ones that I frequently come back to whenever I feel myself getting wound up throughout the day.
2. Reframe the situation
I find it helpful to stop and reframe the situation. Reframing is about noticing the negative, life-draining thoughts and directly challenging them by looking for the positive opportunity.
I realise that the moments in my life that have been the toughest have also been the most fertile ground for growth and learning. I didn’t want them. I didn’t chose them, but I learned loads from them. Click To Tweet
Some examples from my own story. It’s hard being in the same space with my partner and children 24/7. However, my bigger purpose in life is to become a more loving and kinder human being. What better opportunity than being thrown in with my family and having everything else stripped away?!
3. Get support from others
I believe that one of the most underrated things that we can put in place for ourselves is the support of others who will listen empathically and without judgement to what we have to say.
When life seems hard to manage and we get overwhelmed or irritable, it’s not that we are inherently a failure. Often, it is simply that we don’t have the support in place that we need at that moment.
Our culture values independence, privacy and individuality. And yet as a species we are primed to thrive in relationship with others. Life-giving relationships in which we get the support we need are essential for thriving when life is uncertain.
Our culture values independence, privacy and individuality. And yet as a species we are primed to thrive in relationship with others. Life-giving relationships in which we get the support we need are essential for thriving when… Click To Tweet